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We’ve all been there, it happens to all of us. Feeling frustrated can be the first step towards anger and us ending up yelling at our children. Don’t forget the guilt that happens after!

The question is then, how can we stop ourselves it before we start to fall down this cascade and end up yelling at our kids, and feeling bad about it?

In this blog, I’ll discuss 3 easy things that you can do to help reduce your levels of frustration and ease the pressure you are feeling. All of these will help you avoid the anger cascade that so many of us fall into

1. Walk Away For A Sanity Break

If you’re starting to feel frustrated, if you can hear it in your voice, or feel it in your body (often in your stomach or notice your heart or breathing quicken), then walk away. This is, of course, assuming that you’re in a place where you can walk away for a minute or two. Always make sure that your child is in a safe situation.

When you walk away and remove yourself from the stressful situation you reduce its power over you. While standing away from the situation, take three deep breaths and repeat to yourself a mantra or an affirmation.

“Calm”    or    “I am feeling calm and relaxed”

Once you’ve done this, then return to the situation and do what needs to be done. You’ll find it a lot easier having had a mini sanity break.

A quick note, if you can’t walk away then still take the deep breaths and say a mantra or affirmation, just keep going for as long as you need to while still in your child’s presence until you can step away.

2. Gain Perspective

Often when we’re feeling frustrated at our children, we’re looking at them, their behaviour, what they are doing and what they should be doing, from the perspective of an adult.

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A quick way to change how you’re feeling about their behaviour or the situation you find yourself in is to ask yourself:

“What’s going on for my child right now?”

This simple question helps get you out of your head and moves you to the perspective of the child and into your heart. It facilitates empathy and finding a solution to the problem. When you know (or can at least guess) what’s going on, then you can pinpoint a possible solution. 

3. Get Some Help

Feeling frustrated on a regular basis is often an indicator of stress.

Parenting can be hard work, and mums who are in the thick of it can be prone to chronic stress. Stress has a negative impact on our lives. It can make us not enjoy our children or being a parent.

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Individuals with chronic stress report a lower quality of life. It can impact our relationships with our partner or husband, family, and friends. It can affect our physical health and can be a contributor to perinatal or parenting depression.

Feeling stressed every day, hanging out for ‘wine time’ or overeating chocolate or junk food, is not the way to be a good mum. Our kids need us to be the best we can be (not perfect!) so that they can be the best they can be. 

Offloading and debriefing with friends and family can be helpful, but unless they can help us with creating a plan to feel less stressed and move forward, then they can actually help us continue feeling stuck. Have a rant, but then contact a professional who specializes in parenting to help you out. 

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Feeling constantly frustrated is not a part of normal healthy parenting. It’s okay to have been this way in the past, now is the time to move on from it, let go of the mummy guilt about past behaviours and move to where you want to be. 

Our kids grow up too fast for us to be unhappy.

It’s okay to reach out for help

Here’s to your relaxed and happy parenting.

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